He Said, She Said
Changing jobs, bosses, and/or work locations – even within the same company – is not always an easy thing (particularly when one doesn’t jump up to embrace big changes with open arms and a joyful song in her heart). I learned this about five years ago when the company I worked for merged with another and I ended up working at a new office with a new job and with a new boss. Now I wasn’t a complete stranger to the people I was now working for and working with on a daily basis. We had been employed with the same company before the merger, and I had had good experiences with the majority of them. This included the person who was now to be my boss. But not everyone had good work–related interactions with my boss. And they shared their stories and opinions with me with, I’m sure, the intent of being helpful. However, their stories started to negatively colour my interactions with this person.
Thankfully, the person who had been my boss pre-merger had also moved to the new office, and told me to keep in mind my own interactions with my boss before taking the words of others as the irrefutable truth. And I’m so thankful I took that advice to heart, for it still helps me to correct course when any negative voices (my own included) start to get too loud.
I’m not, however, trying to say one should completely disregard the opinions or experiences of others in regards to relationships of either a professional or personal nature. There are definitely times when to do so would be detrimental. But as the old saying goes, take the advice of others with a grain of salt as need be. Your relationships will be the better for it.
*Photo Credit: k.a.i. ©2010 (Flickr via Creative Commons)