A Coffee and a New Year Friday
My mom and I were having a (rare for us in this past year) leisurely lunch yesterday, and she asked if Jeff and I had any goals set for 2016. We both ended up declining to give specifics, agreeing that way there would be fewer disappointments if they weren’t met. (And conversely, there would be more celebrations if they were.) Not that neither one of us don't have things we’d like to do and change and the like, but I think we both felt it wasn’t quite time yet to put all that into words. It’s easy to set out grand “To Do” lists at the start of a new calendar year, isn’t it? And we all have our staples we return to time and again. For myself, it’s often “Write a book/write and earn some money from it”, get the house thoroughly organized, get a certain nagging issue in a relationship worked out, read more, do more, be more. And starting on Monday, I’ll be part of the latest round of Jon Acuff’s 30 Days of Hustle challenge. Though what I’ll be hustling on I’m still not 100% settled on. Something fun, I think, to start the year off with a bit of a kick and a happy skip.
But thanks to my One Word 365 for 2015 – hope – I am more optimistic than I usually would be not only about the year just past, but also about the one now unfurling before us. And, thanks to author Shaua Niequist, I have my One Word 365 for 2016:
It looks like a bit of a cheat, doesn’t it? Like I’m missing the point? But I’m not – not for me, anyway. For I know how often I don’t do something at all if it cannot be perfect out of the gate:
- I cannot have people over for a visit because the house and yard are not in perfect shape.
- I cannot share a story or idea because it’s not yet perfectly formed, worded, and/or polished.
- I cannot try This New Thing because I won’t be perfect at it like So-and-So.
And by having that mindset for so long, I’ve missed out on some amazing things in my 44 years, I think. In some cases, I know I have definitely missed out. (But another goal for this year is to move on from the mistakes I cannot change or fix. So … yeah.) So this year I want to be present – I want to enjoy good things as they happen; I want to try new things even though I’ll likely not get it right the first or tenth time; I want to not be snarled up in past mistakes and crippled by future uncertainties. I don’t want to miss now because I’m blinded by a need to have everything be perfect right out of the gate.
And I think it’ll help make for a good 2016, don’t you?
I hope you have a happy Friday! And Happy New Year!