A Coffee and Some Relationship Stuff Friday
I’ve been thinking a fair bit more than usual as of late about the relationships in my life: my marital one, my familial and church ones, my work-related ones, the long and the short ones. It’s been an exercise of stepping back, looking at where I can better put the needs of others ahead of my own, of where I haven’t always brought the healthiest me to the table. It’s challenging me, and encouraging me to step out of my comfort zones while staying true to the ways I’m put together.
It’s also challenging for I can do a pretty fantastic job of beating myself up for past mistakes while stressing out about/imagining a perfect utopia in the future. In simpler terms, I can miss out on a lot of good moments right in the present. So that has been being worked on, too.
(Goodness, I think I need a cup of coffee. I’m feeling ramble-y.)
As such, it’s good to have some help and centering points from other people:
- I keep coming back to Donald Miller’s article at StorylineBlog.com about focusing more on connecting with and enjoying and encouraging those I’m in relationship with. I didn’t realize how deeply I was in competition with some people until I read the article, and I keep coming back to it when I need to remember a better way to connect with people.
- Also at StorylineBlog.com is a great piece from Mike McHargue: How to Overcome Comparison and Learn to Love Your Life. I don’t hate my life, in case you were wondering. But I do have a tendency to think everyone else’s is better in some way. So learning to truly appreciate what I do have? It’s something I’m working on getting deep into my soul.
- Brace yourselves – it’s another article from StorylineBlog.com! This one is by Andrea Lucado, and it touches on another thing I struggle with which has had a significant impact on/in my relationships: Genuinely liking myself – who I am, as I am. Reading it with (I’ll admit) the hope of a quick fix, I found instead the crux of many of my relationship issues – I don’t always like myself. So I easily assume others won’t like me, either. Eh, maybe I’m feeling too introspective without that coffee, so you’d best read the article for yourself and take what you need from it.