Too often I forget that in order to change something, I need to quit focusing on what I shouldn’t be doing and get my mind (and attention) on what I should be doing. It may seem like a nitpickypoint to some, but it’s one that makes a real difference for me when changing a habit. (And when I remember to apply it.)
For instance, when Paul was writing what we know as the book of Philippians in the Bible, he didn’t talk too much about the things his brothers and sisters in Christ shouldn’t be doing. He did, however, spend a fair bit talking about the things they ought to be doing: Rejoice in the Lord, give thanks in all things, fix your thoughts on what is true, etc.
Paul sums it up all quite well, in my opinion, in Philippians 4:8 (NLT):
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honourable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
Now that’s not to say any of us should deny the negative things going on around us or to us or even in us. We need to see those things are there, after all, before we can truly do anything about changing them. But once that has been done, quit focusing on it.
After all, when you’re constantly looking over your shoulder, how can you tell if you’re moving ahead in the right direction?