Stop Wishing — Start Moving

There are a few things I wish were different in my life right now:

I wish I may, I wish I might . . . ^

  • I wish my husband and I were already parents
  • I wish I didn’t procrastinate
  • I wish I had more items checked off my “to do” list
  • I wish I had frittered away less time over the past however many years
  • I wish I was in better physical shape
  • I wish I was a more faithful follower of Jesus

But no amount of wishing is going to enable me to go back in time to make the necessary changes then so I can have the life I wish for now. This isn’t Twice in a Lifetime, after all. And even as I know, deep down, that God knows my end from my beginning and as such is not surprised to find me where I’m currently at, I still have regrets about “could have beens” – real and imagined.

It’s a tiring way to live, to be honest. For one thing, I only end up perpetuating the cycle I’m currently in. How can I move on from where I am today if I keep wishing for things to have been different in a past I cannot change? I think I also end up limiting God – how can He turn my muck-ups into something good if I won’t let them go? It’s like I have a hole in my favourite pair of shoes, yet I refuse to let them go so they can be fixed and worn once more, or tossed and replaced with a new pair.

So today I remind myself again that the past is past. All I can do is move on from where I am now, to lay a hold of what God has given for me today and to make the best use I can of the time, talents, and life He has given to me.  In other words (a paraphrase of Theodore Roosevelt’s, to be exact), I need to do what I can, with what I have, where I am.

What do you do when feeling bogged down with regrets about your past? Or do you not have any of those little goobers raising their whiny voices in your life?

^Photo Credit: Robert Couse-Baker ©2011 (Flickr via Creative Commons)


  • Andi says:

    Such powerful honesty, Michelle. I have a lot of things I wish I had done different in my life, but I also have this – a deep knowledge that God uses it all. . . nothing is wasted. Nothing chaff. Nothing scrap. All used. . . . for our good and the good of all.

    Loving you.

  • Susan says:

    David Crowder maybe says it best … “I don’t have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way that He loves us”.
    Don’t “maintain your regrets” anymore, lovely sister. Celebrate your successes, enjoy your many blessings, impact the world with your amazing gifts. Love you!

    • crosscribe says:

      I’m all misty-eyed right now (in a good way). I’ll have to listen to the song you quoted when I get the chance to today. Love you too! :-)

  • Whittier was quite correct when he wrote, “For all sad words of tongue and pen, The saddest are these, ‘It might have been’.” I think “it might have been” thoughts are useful only if they prod us to live differently in the time we have remaining. Unfortunately we (and I include myself squarely in this category) spend a lot of time thinking about regrets and very little time taking active measures to change the things that caused the regrets in the first place.

    So, what active measures are you taking right now to become parents (without giving your readers TMI), to stop procrastinating/wasting time and complete items on your “to do” list, to get in better physical shape, and to follow Jesus more closely?

    • crosscribe says:

      Shari, I’m going to answer the questions I can answer either on Wednesday or Friday. I’ll see how the week goes. :)

  • Julie says:

    Worry not. I heard this once: “Learn from the past, prepare for the future, and LIVE in the present.” I think it’s very good advice. Live for the “now”. There’s still lots of time left! You’re still plenty young! So just do what you can. Go for it!!

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